I had a virtual appointment with my therapist this week. We talked about how I always concentrate on what I can’t do instead of what I can do. This wouldn’t be the first time and probably not the last time this will be discussed. I’m a very slow learner, or more likely, the things I can’t do far outweigh the things I can do and most of all they’re not as fun or fulfilling.

My favorite therapist in NY, Toby, who I went to for over four years used to tell me, “you’re a human being not a human doing.” To me this was just blah, blah, blah. All of who I am is what I’m doing. Same subject, years earlier. When I saw Toby I could still walk, do full flights of stairs, work full time, and drive without hand controls. So here goes:

Things I Can’t Do

• Dance
• Walk Ellie
• Go hiking
• Swim
• River rafting
• I can’t go to the ocean and do everything I enjoy, walking along the shoreline, going into the ocean, laying in the sun, playing frisbee, feeling my toes in the sand.
• Plant flower pots for outside and take care of them
• Jump out of an airplane
• Mow the lawn

Things I Can Do

• Plant flower pots
• Drive with hand controls
• Shower unassisted
• Read
• Continue working on blog
• Continue working on Ancestry.com
• Sit outside
• Adaptive exercise
• Continue working on crafts
• Ride golf cart
• Laundry
• Go into a pool
• Cook

Ok, so writing this I’m realizing that I can do some of the items on my Can’t do list using adaptive equipment. Interesting. I also realize that a few things on my Can do list I just don’t do, such as perfecting this blog, working on family tree on Ancestry and continuing work on my crafts. These are all things that overwhelm me. Is that attributed to my ADHD.